Re: Gone mad!
speaking from experience here.
whatever you do, dont lay your hands on her. tearing up her stuff, that should be out of the question. if she has no respect for your things, she damn sure has none for her own things, so destroying her things aint gonna hurt her one bit.
this is hard to talk about, but i went through the same thing with my wife. i cant count how many things that meant something to me were destroyed by her. the last time it happened i lost my cool, put my hands on her and im the one that spent the night in jail. the law dont give a damn what she tore up that belonged to you. this was the first and only time i had ever been in trouble in my life. i got lucky and was able to get into a first time offenders program and will get off with a clean record, but it has cost me well over $1000, hours upon hours of my time, almost a year of my life, and other things we can never get back. luckily i didnt lose my family. i kick myself in the ass everyday for what i done, to the point of hating myself for crossing that line and touching her that day.
all and all though in my case, i am glad it happened. we both got the help we needed, and a lot more good than bad has come out of it. me and my wife both have grown up a lot. we get along better than ever, and we have both realized there are more important things in life than yourself and life is to short to hold on to your personal grudges, and spending time arguing over things that arent important.
im not telling you to hit her and it will make things better, but if things are this bad i suggest getting some sort of counciling if you think its worth holding on to. if that doesnt help, or you dont believe its worth saving go your seperate ways before its too late. if things went this far chances are they will eventually go farther and one day, one of you will lose your cool and someone will get hurt, and then its too late. sorry wont cut it then. if youre one of these guys that say they will never hit a woman, dont fool yourself. i always said the same thing, but everyone has their breaking point, everyone.
if any of you guys think im an ass for this, well i can understand why. just remeber this, like the old saying goes, dont judge a man until youve walked a mile in his shoes. i know what i done was wrong and i can admit that, and i learned a lot from my mistakes. i just dont wont to want to see someone else (93 typhoon or any of you guys) make the same mistake. if i lost some of you guys respect so be it, but its worth it if i help one person keep from making the same mistake i did.
kris
